Why Do People Cheat?? Read What 11 Peoples Are Saying Why They Cheated.

Why Do People Cheat?? Read What 11 Peoples Are Saying Why They Cheated.

 

It's a sad fact of life: Cheating happens. The numbers are all over the place, but they indicate that somewhere between about 10 percent and 70 percent (yes, over two-thirds!) of women have cheated. Another more recent showed that about 15 percent to 18 percent of married people have cheated on their spouses. That still means the vast majority of people aren't cheaters, which is great to hear.

But, even though we all know cheating is wrong, some people still do it. Why? To find out, we asked people who have cheated what their reasons were. Here's what they shared:

Why men have cheated

"For the first time, women were hitting on me" "I cheated on my girlfriend because I could. I never had a lot of sexual options through high school and college, but after school, I really hit my stride. For the first time, women were hitting on me, and I was drunk on the feeling. One night, I let it go too far and slept with a woman at a party. I didn't tell my girlfriend it happened but broke up with her on a trumped-up fight instead." —D.H., 28

"I was seeking something that I was not getting in my marriage" "Both times, I was seeking something that I was not getting in my marriage—sex, love, and affection. ... The absolute truth is that I could have likely had all the things I was seeking in my affair with my wife. It was a lack of effort and too much old programming that led to me to believe otherwise." —Don, 29

"The opportunity to something different in bed" "The two main reasons were the excitement I got from the chase leading up to the cheat and the opportunity to do something in bed that my girlfriend objected to." —John, 34

"What we wanted out of our sex life was very different" "We had some issues in our relationship that had been slowly pushing us apart. She was steadily becoming more religious, and what we wanted out of our sex life was very different—and we were operating on a long-distance relationship." —Adam, 25

Why women have cheated

"I needed a way to end it" "I fell out of love and was too scared to tell him and too embarrassed to admit to myself that the relationship was done. I needed a way to end it by making him end it for me. Cowardice, really." —Gloria, 34

"We were emotionally incompatible" "I felt all men cheated and so I should just strike first. That was a huge mistake. I was young and didn't know how to process the feelings of isolation in my relationship. Rather than confront the fact that this person and I were emotionally incompatible, I cheated." —Mary, 31

"To get my needs met" "I felt dissatisfied with the romance/sex in the relationship, even if it was a stable and loving one. There ended up being a lot of tension, as he expected me to do all the work to make our relationship 'spark' again, and didn't lift a finger, didn't communicate with me, and didn't really react when I did try. Eventually, I got tired of bothering and slept with someone else to get my needs met." —Kay, 32

"I didn't feel like myself" "I felt like I was stuck in a relationship I didn't want to be in. I didn't feel like myself in it, so I emotionally cheated on my ex with a few other men." —Jasmine, 20

"He couldn't remember my birthday" "I was in a long-distance relationship with a man for five years, and I'd only see him twice a year. I asked him multiple times what our end game was for the relationship, but he kept saying, 'let's see where this goes.' He even gave me a promise ring—he said it was a promise that one day we would be together. We were drifting apart, but we were both too lazy to break it off. Finally, I cheated on him, not once, but twice, both one night stands. The second time was on my birthday—after five years of being in a 'relationship' with this man, he still couldn't remember the exact day of my birthday. ... When midnight had passed and I didn't receive an email, phone call, or message, I went to a club with some friends, and that's when I went home with a guy. I would say it was the straw that broke the camel's back, but if I was honest with myself, it was broken long before that." —Mari, 35

 

"I didn't know I could talk to my partner" "I cheated because I didn't know I could talk to my partner about what else I needed in the relationship—kinkier sex, or more attention, or just more understanding about when I needed more space." —Kim, 35

"We stopped being physically intimate" "I lived with my boyfriend, and because he was moving across the country to go to law school and I wasn't going to go with him or do long distance, he thought we should slowly stop being physically intimate with each other. Then, I met someone who wanted to have sex with me and we had a two-month-long affair and it was hot. My boyfriend and I ended up getting back together a few months after he went away to law school." —Cathy, 35

 

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Comments (2)

  1. Munkyman

    Same reasons, just different ways of saying them… women seem far more preoccupied with putting the fault onto their partner, while the men seem quite willing to shoulder their share & more.

    November 25, 2016
  2. smitty45

    The best option for cheating,,, get divorced first. Cheating just proves their love is a lie.

    November 25, 2016